“People with BPD are like people with third degree burns over 90% of their bodies. Lacking emotional skin, they feel agony at the slightest touch or movement.”
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“Cincinatti was where I learned that running away from your problems has a three-month statute of limitations, a lesson I have found repeatedly to be true. Three months is still a first impression -- of a city, of other people, of yourself in that place. But there comes a point when you can no longer hide who you are, and the reactions of others become all too familiar...”
― Loud in the House of Myself: Memoir of a Strange Girl
― Loud in the House of Myself: Memoir of a Strange Girl
“If unloving mothers were able to see their behavious as abusive, they either would stop behaving that way or they would get help for their dysfunction. But many cannot: instead, they deny it, to themselves, their families, and the world at large, in order to avoid a sense of guilt, to avoid having to make changes in their lives, or to avoid the bruising awareness that they, too, were unloved children.”
― When You and Your Mother Can't Be Friends: Resolving the Most Complicated Relationship of Your Life
― When You and Your Mother Can't Be Friends: Resolving the Most Complicated Relationship of Your Life
“A borderline suffers a kind of emotional hemophilia; [s]he lacks the clotting mechanism needed to moderate [his or her] spurts of feeling. Stimulate a passion, and the borderline emotionally bleeds to death.”
― I Hate You—Don't Leave Me: Understanding the Borderline Personality
― I Hate You—Don't Leave Me: Understanding the Borderline Personality
“We propose that BPD involves secondary structural dissociation. Consistent with this, Golynkina and Ryle (1999) found that patients with BPD encompassed a dissociative part of the personality that seems to represent an ANP (a coping ANP) and more than one EP (abuser rage, victim rage, passive victim, and zombie). Some patients with BPD have severe dissociative symptoms, and may actually border on DDNOS or DID. Our clinical observations suggest that dissociative parts in BPD patients have less emancipation and elaboration, and less distinct sense of self than in DDNOS or DID.”
― The Haunted Self: Structural Dissociation and the Treatment of Chronic Traumatization
― The Haunted Self: Structural Dissociation and the Treatment of Chronic Traumatization
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