Meg

“To love somebody is not just a strong feeling -- it is a decision, it is a judgment, it is a promise," writes psychologist Erich Fromm. "If love were only a feeling, there would be no basis for the promise to love each other forever. A feeling comes and it may go. How can I judge that it will stay forever, when my act does not involve judgment and decision?”
― Ada Calhoun, Wedding Toasts I'll Never Give

“The romantic fairy tales we grew up with -- where marriage is the happy ending rather than the opening scene -- are not useful for grown-ups.”
― Ada Calhoun, Wedding Toasts I'll Never Give

“By staying married, we give something to ourselves and to others: hope. Hope that in steadfastly loving someone, we ourselves, for all our faults, will be loved; that the broken world will be made whole. To hitch your rickety wagon to the flickering star of another fallible human being -- what an insane thing to do. What a burden, and what a gift.”
― Ada Calhoun, Wedding Toasts I'll Never Give

“Who would endure life if it were not for the hope of death?”
― L.M. Montgomery, The Blue Castle