Bruce North

“We now know that love is, in actuality, the pinnacle of evolution, the most compelling survival mechanism of the human species. Not because it induces us to mate and reproduce. We do manage to mate without love! But because love drives us to bond emotionally with a precious few others who offer us safe haven from the storms of life. Love is our bulwark, designed to provide emotional protection so we can cope with the ups and downs of existence. This drive to emotionally attach — to find someone to whom we can turn and say “Hold me tight” — is wired into our genes and our bodies. It is as basic to life, health, and happiness as the drives for food, shelter, or sex. We need emotional attachments with a few irreplaceable others to be physically and mentally healthy — to survive.”
― Sue Johnson, Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love

“no one can dance with a partner and not touch each other’s raw spots. We must know what these raw spots are and be able to speak about them in a way that pulls our partner closer to us.”
― Sue Johnson, Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love

“Is anybody really ready to get married? I doubt it. Nobody's ready for marriage. Marriage makes you ready for marriage!”
― Schnarch David, Passionate Marriage

“Cellulite and sexual potential are highly correlated.”
― David Schnarch, Passionate Marriage: Keeping Love and Intimacy Alive in Committed Relationships