Bruce North

“Did I pick the right person? This question inverts the starting and ending points. We do not pick our perfect match because we ourselves are not perfect. The universe hands us a flawless diamond—in the rough. Only if we are willing to polish off every part of ourselves that cannot join do we end up with a soul mate.”
― David Schnarch, Passionate Marriage: Keeping Love and Intimacy Alive in Committed Relationships

“no one can dance with a partner and not touch each other’s raw spots. We must know what these raw spots are and be able to speak about them in a way that pulls our partner closer to us.”
― Sue Johnson, Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love

“Love is the best survival mechanism there is,”
― Sue Johnson, Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love

“When marriages fail, it is not increasing conflict that is the cause. It is decreasing affection and emotional responsiveness...”
― Sue Johnson, Hold Me Tight