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“Don’t sugarcoat a difficult person’s behavior. You need to name the behavior for what it is: control, manipulation, and abuse. Doing this makes it clear that their behavior is unacceptable, not your fault, and not something you can change. Seeing harmful behavior for what it is can help you accept an imperfect solution, such as getting a divorce or not allowing your children to visit their grandparents.”
― Sharon Martin MSW LCSW, The Better Boundaries Workbook: A CBT-Based Program to Help You Set Limits, Express Your Needs, and Create Healthy Relationships

“Grieving the end of a relationship, or accepting any imperfect solution, is a process that includes remembering why you made this decision, accepting your feelings, finding healthy outlets for your feelings, and treating yourself with kindness.”
― Sharon Martin MSW LCSW, The Better Boundaries Workbook: A CBT-Based Program to Help You Set Limits, Express Your Needs, and Create Healthy Relationships

“the most impactful thing we can do with our kids is to show up in a calm, regulated, non-rushed, non-blaming, non-outcome-focused way—both when they are performing difficult tasks and when they are witnessing us perform difficult tasks.”
― Becky Kennedy, Good Inside

“Why this boundary matters to you.
Example: This boundary matters because I need to keep my son safe.
You have the right to set boundaries.
Example: I have the right to decide who or what comes into my home.
When other people respond unfavorably, it doesn’t mean you’ve done something wrong.
Example: My father’s anger doesn’t mean I’ve done something wrong.
You’re not responsible for how other people feel about your boundaries or how they respond.
Example: My father’s feelings and actions aren’t my responsibility. It’s not my job to make him feel better.”
― Sharon Martin MSW LCSW, The Better Boundaries Workbook: A CBT-Based Program to Help You Set Limits, Express Your Needs, and Create Healthy Relationships