Rivi

“if you are looking for answers you can’t find, you need to change the question.”
― Laura Dave, The Night We Lost Him

“Here’s what you need to understand about other people’s addictions: You didn’t cause it, you can’t control it, and you can’t cure it. There’s nothing you can do to manage Rayya at this point, and the more you try to control the situation, the more you will lose. When it comes to other people’s addictions, whatever you try to control ends up controlling you.”
― Elizabeth Gilbert, All the Way to the River

“But for anyone out there whose life is being ruined by an active addict right now, please allow me to say the one thing that I don’t think gets said strongly enough or often enough: it’s okay for you to leave them. Don’t get me wrong: Addicts are precious and suffering children of God, and they do not deserve your contempt.

But if you can ever save yourself from one—run.

It’s okay for you to leave them.

That’s what Rayya used to tell me, anyway, back when she was sober—or at least semisober. It has nothing to do with love, she said. Nothing to do with loyalty. Of course you love them, and you will always love them! But having the courage to cut off contact with an active addict is often the only way to survive their rampages—and it just might be the wake-up call that the addict needs, too.”
― Elizabeth Gilbert, All the Way to the River

“It may be dangerous to be unfathered, exposed on the animal plain, but life unmothered is simply unlivable. I mean, why go on?”
― Amity Gaige, Heartwood