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“ACOAs often develop an external locus of control, believing that something outside of themselves will decrease the emptiness or the pain they feel inside. Thoughts such as “If the house is clean enough, I will be good enough” or “If I win the big one at the casino, I will be somebody important” are attempts to control blocked pain and fear.”
― Jane Middelton-Moz, After the Tears: Helping Adult Children of Alcoholics Heal Their Childhood Trauma

“first, the repeated experience of the trauma itself; second, the effects of the trauma on personality development; and third, the need to re-experience the feelings and/or memories of the original trauma in order to integrate it and work it through.”
― Jane Middelton-Moz, After the Tears: Helping Adult Children of Alcoholics Heal Their Childhood Trauma

“Children of Alcoholics stop expecting or wanting help because the continual feeling of disappointment is too painful.”
― Jane Middelton-Moz, After the Tears: Helping Adult Children of Alcoholics Heal Their Childhood Trauma

“You must know what you want, to find what you want.”
― Lailah Gifty Akita