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“Narcissistic abuse always entails blame shifting. Nothing is ever their responsibility or their fault because for a narcissistic person to take responsibility or accept blame means having to accept that they are accountable and imperfect.”
― It's Not You: Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People
― It's Not You: Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People
“If your friends are not inviting you out to brunch this weekend, Let Them. If the person that you’re really attracted to is not interested in a commitment, Let Them. If your kids do not want to get up and go to that thing with you this week, Let Them. So much time and energy is wasted on forcing other people to match our expectations. And the truth is, if somebody else—a person you’re dating, a business partner, a family member—if they’re not showing up how you need them to show up, do not try to force them to change. Let Them be themselves because they are revealing who they are to you. Just Let Them and then you get to choose what you do next.”
― The Let Them Theory: A Life-Changing Tool That Millions of People Can't Stop Talking About
― The Let Them Theory: A Life-Changing Tool That Millions of People Can't Stop Talking About
“Narcissistic folks love a fight, debate, argument, or any form of conflict. Arguing gives them another way to get supply, let out some steam, air their grievances, and remain dominant.”
― It's Not You: Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People
― It's Not You: Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People
“It is you, who has no need to belittle, who is in fact the larger, steelier, more forceful party; you – who feels so defenceless – who is actually in power.”
― On Being Nice
― On Being Nice
“The moderate narcissist offers enough good days to keep you invested and enough bad days that hurt you and leave you utterly confused. Moderate narcissistic people have cognitive empathy, so they sometimes seem to “get it.” They are entitled and seek validation and have a cocky, but not menacing, arrogance. They are hypocritical and believe that there is one set of rules for them and another for everyone else. They often feel that they are the victim in situations that do not go their way. They do not take responsibility for their behavior and will shift blame onto others for anything that makes them look bad. They are deeply selfish and will choose what works for them to the detriment of you or anyone else.”
― It's Not You: Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People
― It's Not You: Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People
Andy’s 2025 Year in Books
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