“Many codependents, at some time in their lives, were true victims—of someone’s abuse, neglect, abandonment, alcoholism, or any number of situations that can victimize people. We were, at some time, truly helpless to protect ourselves or solve our problems. Something came our way, something we didn’t ask for, and it hurt us terribly. That is sad, truly sad. But an even sadder fact is that many of us codependents began to see ourselves as victims. Our painful history repeats itself. As caretakers, we allow people to victimize us, and we participate in our victimization by perpetually rescuing people. Rescuing or caretaking is not an act of love.”
― Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself
― Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself
“I reiterate once more, forgive the offenders to let divine justice be made.”
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“A person doesn't ever truly know another person. They have a whole life, years and years of memories and experiences. You cannot ever know what they have felt in situations, what has happened to them, what made them who they are. So you cannot judge a person ever, not unless you somehow manage to learn their whole life.”
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“Sofia the kind of woman no matter what she have in her hand she make it look like a weapon.”
― The Color Purple
― The Color Purple
“Codependents make great employees. They don’t complain; they do more than their share; they do whatever is asked of them; they please people; and they try to do their work perfectly—at least for a while, until they become angry and resentful.”
― Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself
― Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself
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