Julie Wright

“One of the big reasons that so many of us cling to false belonging is that braving into a more genuine life requires a terrifying initial descent.”
― Toko-pa Turner, Belonging: Remembering Ourselves home

“We must find the place within where things have been muted and give that a voice. Until those things are spoken, no truth can find its way forward. The world needs your unbelonging. It needs your disagreements, your exclusion, your ache to tear the false constructions down, to find the world behind this one.”
― Toko-pa Turner, Belonging: Remembering Ourselves home

“Research has also shown that having a secure attachment style as an adult is correlated with higher levels of relationship satisfaction and balance,12 higher levels of empathy, respect and forgiveness for partners,13 and higher levels of sexual satisfaction when compared to people who are insecurely attached in their relationships.14 Additionally, having a secure base with a partner can increase sexploration, a term coined to describe “the degree to which a person co-constructs a sex-positive, supportive, and safe environment with their partner(s).”15 If you’ve been to one of my talks on attachment, you will have heard me say that secure attachment is the new sexy!”
― Jessica Fern, Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy

“But the black sheep are the artists, visionaries and healers of our culture, because they are the ones willing to call into question those places which feel stale, obsolete, or without integrity.”
― Toko-pa Turner, Belonging: Remembering Ourselves home