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“The emotionally cold or distant trait also rears its head during arguments when one person is experiencing and expressing significant emotion and the narcissistic person just checks out and does not respond—or does so in a cold and clipped manner. At such times you may find yourself spinning—and actually feeling as though you are “going crazy”—because the coldness of the response makes it even more difficult to regulate yourself in that moment. The emotional coldness can be confusing for you and may result in attempts to jump through hoops to generate warmth and connection with your partner. I have observed people wearing themselves out over decades, trying to create a fire where there was no possibility.”
― Ramani Durvasula, Should I Stay or Should I Go?: Surviving a Relationship with a Narcissist

“The narcissist is like a bucket with a hole in the bottom: No matter how much you put in, you can never fill it up. The phrase “I never feel like I am enough” is the mantra of the person in the narcissistic relationship. That’s because to your narcissistic partner, you are not. No one is. Nothing is.”
― Ramani Durvasula, Should I Stay or Should I Go?: Surviving a Relationship with a Narcissist

“لم يكن الشعور بالذنب هو دافعه الوحيد للمخاطرة، بل كره المذلة التي تجعل من الحياة نصف حياة، ومن الإنسان نصف إنسان. أراد أن يضع حياته في كفة الميزان، والموت في الكفة الأخرى. كان يود أن يقيس كل فعل من أفعاله، بل كل يوم من أيامه، وكل ساعة، وكل ثانية، بالمعيار الأسمى الذي هو الموت.”
― ميلان كونديرا, Life is Elsewhere

“في الطبيعة قوى ثلاث غيبية: الوحي و العقل و القلب. فإن مال المرء جهة الوحي صار ظاهريا. و إن مال جهة العقل صار فيلسوفا. و إن مال جهة القلب صار صوفيا.”
― محمد حسن علوان, موت صغير