Status Updates From Desire: The Longings Inside...

One key brain region involved in processing all forms of harm is Broca's area, a speech center in the left frontal lobe. When we experience trauma, we struggle to put our thoughts and feelings into words.
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😢💔 Betrayal does more than shatter a relationship; it dims the lights in our soul.
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Julian of Norwich wisely said: "First there is the fall, and then there is the recovery from the fall, and both are the mercy of God."
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😠 survivors of sexual assault were 60 % more likelz to encounter negative romantic relationship. 😢

😢...the quality of our early attachments to our caregivers shapes our vulnerability to trauma. Without that foundation of safety, trust, and emotional care, we are far more susceptible to harm.
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🤔 A Danish nationwide study found that grieving parents who had lost a child were double the risk of developing multiple sclerosis. 🤔😢

Trauma takes place in the body and alters its physiological state, affecting everything from our nervous system to our immune response.
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Psychologists often distinguish between "big T" trauma - such as war, abuse, or natural disasters - and "small t" traumas, which may include experiences like bullying, divorce, or chronic stress..
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There's an adage in psychology that the way we are spoken to as children becomes our inner voice.
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when parents set limits,...,they are teaching children that desires need to be disciplined if they are to develop in a healthy way.
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From the moment we are born, the bond we have with our caregivers sets the foundation for learning how to self-regulate and co-regulate our emotions in healthy ways.
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attunement> experience of being truly seen - when someone understands what makes us tick, what pisses us off, and what brings delight.

Dr. Dan Siegel secure attachment the 4 S's>----
🌱Seen
🌱Safe
🌱Soothed
🌱Secure

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We look to the past not to blame our parents or excuse our actions, but because the narrative contains clues to unlocking destructive patterns and implementing lasting change.
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But in the U.S. we owe our fixation on tidy, manicured yards to wealthy French and English aristocrats in the 17th and 18th centuries.
At that time, maintaining a lawn required a tremendous amount of labor and resorces, makisng it a status symbol for the affluent.
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