Emma’s Reviews > How to Stop Breaking Your Own Heart: Stop People-Pleasing, Set Boundaries, and Heal from Self-Sabotage > Status Update

We embrace solitude as a way to get to know ourselves again:

Think: in this hyper connected world where we’re judged by the number of followers we have on social media, it’s easy to devalue solitude. Choosing solitude is a power not a weakness.

Ask: how does the idea of being alone make you feel?

Do: gradually build up the minutes daily without your phone, in complete solitude

We say yes to new experiences

Think: what we experienced today will be lessons for us to learn tomorrow. Without new experiences, we’ll never learn anything new.

Ask: what are the qualities of the person you most admire in your life? Are they open or closed off? Have they said yes to new avenues in their life?

Do: think about a time in your life when you welcomed in a new experience…

ASK: What if you fail this time? Really? Will the world truly end? Are you afraid of the actual act of failure and how that might make you feel? Or is it the perception of failure that is holding you back?

DO: Read books and quotes of people who celebrate repeated failures.

The most important thing is not that bad things happen (they’re inevitable after all), but that we find the strength to get back up again after we fall. Nobody has it figured out. Nobody.

Hoarding feelings of guilt for time wasted won’t erase the past. Instead examine the past, give yourself grace and use the wisdom you obtain with honesty and accountability and move forward

Ego is simply a mask for fear. Don’t pretend it doesn’t exist, use it as a guide to ensure that I’m listening to my spirit. Pause when doomscrolling and check in with what your ego is actually preventing you from doing…

We can all learn to detach ourselves from ego by inviting solitude and quiet into our lives

It takes courage to admit and make the necessary changes after we hold ourselves accountable for the part we played in tolerating mistreatment

When you value yourself, that’s usually when the natural shift takes place and you begin to let go of the things that no longer serve you, and instead, gravitate towards those who match your energy.