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A woman who is trying to control her husband (authority usurpation) will sometimes seek to use pastoral counseling to leverage the spiritual authorities in his life in order to pressure him into doing her will. Pastors must be trained to recognize and combat this tendency lest they be used as pawns in her manipulative power games.
— Feb 16, 2026 02:45AM
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Andrew Meredith
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Steps for a husband with a reviling wife and steps for a shepherd in pastoring a reviling wife.
— Feb 18, 2026 12:06PM
Andrew Meredith
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There are a host of problems with the way the vast majority of Christian marriage counselors counsel.
Edgington then names names: "From what I have seen in my experience counseling hundreds of men and their wives, Leslie Vernick, Darby Strickland, and Sheila Gregoire have indirectly destroyed more marriages than any other Christian counselors - by far."
— Feb 17, 2026 03:27AM
Edgington then names names: "From what I have seen in my experience counseling hundreds of men and their wives, Leslie Vernick, Darby Strickland, and Sheila Gregoire have indirectly destroyed more marriages than any other Christian counselors - by far."
Andrew Meredith
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Five questions to ask your current pastors or when you are looking to join a new church:
1.) Do women sin?
2.) Do women sin against men?
3.) What are some specific sins women especially struggle with as women?
4.) Do you hold women accountable for their sin?
5.) Can you give me a few concrete examples of when and how you did?
— Feb 15, 2026 08:33AM
1.) Do women sin?
2.) Do women sin against men?
3.) What are some specific sins women especially struggle with as women?
4.) Do you hold women accountable for their sin?
5.) Can you give me a few concrete examples of when and how you did?
One of the ways women often try to achieve this is by saying that she "feels unsafe" around her husband. A pastor must immediately (via email exchange or brief phonecall) ask very specific questions:
"What do you specifically mean by unsafe?"
"Has he ever physically assaulted you, struck you, or shoved you?"
"Has he ever verbally threatened you?"
"Has he ever thrown, punched, or broken anything in anger in your presence?"
"Have you or anyone else close to you ever called the police because they felt he was going to harm you or someone else?"
"What exactly had he done that you find threatening?"
Sadly, more often than not the answer to these questions will be no, he has never done any of these things. She often "feels unsafe" around him because he vehemently disagrees with her, abruptly shuts down her arguments, goes silent when mad, or pointedly criticizes her and her point of view.
At this point, the pastor must immediately rebuke the woman for her slanderous insinuation against her husband which was sinful and continue to insist that they all meet together (which she probably won't want to do anymore anyway).