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Steps for a husband with a reviling wife and steps for a shepherd in pastoring a reviling wife.
— Feb 18, 2026 12:06PM
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Andrew Meredith
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There are a host of problems with the way the vast majority of Christian marriage counselors counsel.
Edgington then names names: "From what I have seen in my experience counseling hundreds of men and their wives, Leslie Vernick, Darby Strickland, and Sheila Gregoire have indirectly destroyed more marriages than any other Christian counselors - by far."
— Feb 17, 2026 03:27AM
Edgington then names names: "From what I have seen in my experience counseling hundreds of men and their wives, Leslie Vernick, Darby Strickland, and Sheila Gregoire have indirectly destroyed more marriages than any other Christian counselors - by far."
Andrew Meredith
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A woman who is trying to control her husband (authority usurpation) will sometimes seek to use pastoral counseling to leverage the spiritual authorities in his life in order to pressure him into doing her will. Pastors must be trained to recognize and combat this tendency lest they be used as pawns in her manipulative power games.
— Feb 16, 2026 02:45AM
Andrew Meredith
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Five questions to ask your current pastors or when you are looking to join a new church:
1.) Do women sin?
2.) Do women sin against men?
3.) What are some specific sins women especially struggle with as women?
4.) Do you hold women accountable for their sin?
5.) Can you give me a few concrete examples of when and how you did?
— Feb 15, 2026 08:33AM
1.) Do women sin?
2.) Do women sin against men?
3.) What are some specific sins women especially struggle with as women?
4.) Do you hold women accountable for their sin?
5.) Can you give me a few concrete examples of when and how you did?
1.) Embrace Biblical Patriarchy
2.) Don't browbeat your wife
3.) Don't be passive either, lead with grace
4.) Lead your family to a godly church even if your wife disagrees
5.) Stand up to your wife
6.) Don't allow yourself to be manipulated by her feelings
7.) Recognize that if your wife is truly a "reviling wife," she is likely unsaved and cannot truly repent unless the gospel frees her from her sin
8.) Pray for her and share the gospel with her
9.) Forbid your pastor from counseling your wife without you present
10.) Stand up to your pastor if he excuses your wife's sins
11.) If your pastor tells you to submit to your wife's demands, refuse
12.) If necessary, leave your church
Steps for the Pastor
1.) Counsel the flock from Scripture alone
2.) Practice joint counseling unless one spouse is in real physical danger from the other
3.) Don't usurp the husband's authority
4.) Use equal weights and measures, listen carefully to both sides
5.) Offer practical counsel, not theological platitudes
6.) Preach the gospel to an identified reviling wife, she is acting as an unbeliever
7.) If she is unrepentant, begin church discipline, and follow through with excommunication if necessary
8.) Prepare the husband of the reviling wife for the parental alienation that almost always occurs