Ashra’s Reviews > Ace: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex > Status Update
Ashra
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Paraphrasing but, shouldn't accept someone as ace/trans/gay/etc only because they COULDN'T meet the "normal/expected" metric. Just because a "lack" of desire is there doesn't mean you are "wanting" and it's a harmful expectation !!!!! Asking "but did you try" is silly
— 8 hours, 41 min ago
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Ashra
is on page 100 of 210
"How can we feel okay claiming asexuality when so many factors make it easy to doubt? And WHEN are we allowed to stop questioning?"
— 8 hours, 40 min ago
Ashra
is on page 83 of 210
"...my failure of imagination..."
"Other stories were available. I might have seen asexuality as a form of power that makes me IMPERVIOUS in a way others are not..."
"'...I don't feel like I'm missing out on something enjoyable when you're watching your friends crying over a boy or crying over not having a boy.'"
"In her view, being ace is the default. Everything else is extra effort."
— Feb 27, 2026 06:59AM
"Other stories were available. I might have seen asexuality as a form of power that makes me IMPERVIOUS in a way others are not..."
"'...I don't feel like I'm missing out on something enjoyable when you're watching your friends crying over a boy or crying over not having a boy.'"
"In her view, being ace is the default. Everything else is extra effort."
Ashra
is on page 31 of 210
thinking a lot about how "sexuality" is a much bigger word than just "orientation," can also refer to fantasy, sex drive, etc. and yet we use it like all it means is the type of person you are attracted to. but it's a lot more than just that! very well put.
— Feb 19, 2026 12:50PM
