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Feelings are very unreliable sources of truth. So, if you’re depressed, don’t trust your feelings. The strength of your feelings does not reflect reality.
“Our cravings are the source of our unhappiness.” - Buddha
The key here is to try to turn your ‘musts’ into preferences. Try to recognize that reducing the strength of your cravings can set you free, or at least freer.
— Mar 25, 2026 12:17AM
“Our cravings are the source of our unhappiness.” - Buddha
The key here is to try to turn your ‘musts’ into preferences. Try to recognize that reducing the strength of your cravings can set you free, or at least freer.
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There is wisdom in recognizing what we can do for ourselves and where we need help from others.
Healing Shame:
1. Self-consciousness
2. Challenging your internal bully
3. Direct engagement
4. Relating with others
— 18 hours, 58 min ago
Healing Shame:
1. Self-consciousness
2. Challenging your internal bully
3. Direct engagement
4. Relating with others
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Shame operates on the “better safe than sorry” rule.
1. Thwarted efforts to be recognized as good and able;
2. Pressure to conform;
3. Direct attacks and putdowns
“To risk exposure to shame is to risk not being accepted and not belonging.”
— Apr 21, 2026 08:54PM
1. Thwarted efforts to be recognized as good and able;
2. Pressure to conform;
3. Direct attacks and putdowns
“To risk exposure to shame is to risk not being accepted and not belonging.”
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Confronting Shame
1. Shame about our bodies
2. Shame about our competence and abilities
3. Shame in our relationships
4. Shame of what we feel
— Apr 20, 2026 07:15PM
1. Shame about our bodies
2. Shame about our competence and abilities
3. Shame in our relationships
4. Shame of what we feel
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Approval feels good but you can’t base your self-esteem on it.
This does not mean that we become selfish and do not care for others, or selfishly follow our own course regardless of other people’s feelings, or turn others into servants to fulfill our own needs. Rather, it means that we can be pleased with approval but not devastated wo it.
— Apr 18, 2026 10:52PM
This does not mean that we become selfish and do not care for others, or selfishly follow our own course regardless of other people’s feelings, or turn others into servants to fulfill our own needs. Rather, it means that we can be pleased with approval but not devastated wo it.
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Challenging depression may mean exploring values and attitudes that are no longer useful. Working hard to get well may mean working hard to change some of our attitudes—not just following them more vigorously.
Life scripts offer an identity.
“I am the kind of person who __________.”
or
“I am the kind of person who is not or does not ________.”
— Apr 16, 2026 09:16AM
Life scripts offer an identity.
“I am the kind of person who __________.”
or
“I am the kind of person who is not or does not ________.”
