Caleb Tate’s Reviews > Holy Hurt: Understanding Spiritual Trauma and the Process of Healing > Status Update

Healthy self-regulatory processes are only internalized after YEARS of first experiencing it in relationship.

That is sobering

“high control religious communities often use the language of ‘family’ to exploit trust and engender a closeness and a kinship that haven’t been earned.”

The center for abusive systems is control. In psychological control, it is through the praising of blind faith and submission as well as the cursing of critical thinking.

Control is maintained through consequences, forced compliance, and a grooming towards codependence within the spiritual context.

Favorite quote:
“Knowledge can be so empowering that some leaders and systems intentionally disparage or restrict access to psychology and science as a means to keep people powerless. Leaders may fear that access to this information will threaten their own authority and they will lose their influence”

“People can build a beautiful life on top of a nightmare” -San Razvi

“Sometimes people turn a defense against pain into a denomination” -anonymous patient