Kiara’s Reviews > Burn the Haystack: Decode Dating, Torch the Duds, and Make Room for Men Who Matter ― A Guide to Modern Dating > Status Update

"There are a shocking number of people who download and then hang around indefinitely on the apps without any real intention of finding a partnership,, so you could waste a lot of time sending thoughtful messages or crafting amazing dates for men who never wanted that in the first place." GUILTY

"Remember that men run companies and become brain surgeons and fly into space and build bridges--they are perfectly capable of planning a first date." LMAO but also, yeah...she has a point

"Engage only with personalized messages that are worth responding to, and respond only in kind. Do not accept crumbs of communication and serve up a buffet in response." THIS IS MY PROBLEM! I love to talk and I often find myself being the catalyst--NO MORE

"It's not you; you are not the problem. The things you want--a life partner, a best friend, someone who shows you kindness and respect and honesty--these are not unreasonable things. They're also not impossible to find."

this book is mentioning shit that should be so obvious but hasn't been to me!