Figgy’s Reviews > Plan B > Status Update

Dr Ken Ginsburg, child paediatrician and human-development expert, proposes that there are seven interrelated components integral to resilience - competence, confidence, connection, character, contribution, coping and control. These components invite us to find strength and uncertainty.

REJOICE & RADIATE
Stage 4

Let's create new memories to treasure in the future. Let's be okay with falling apart on some days and putting ourselves back together on others. Let's go from stressed to blessed with a growth mindset.

Surround yourself with those who make you happy and want you to be happy and successful - those people who make you laugh, help you when you are in need, and genuinely care about you. They are they ones worth keeping, and everyone else can just pass through. You don't need the dream stealers or the energy zappers.

Boundaries are non-negotiable for me; without them, I burn out and collapse. This means I sometimes have to say no to myself, to others, and to events. Setting boundaries is an important part of your mental health and wellbeing, as without them you might find yourself experiencing poor relationships, anger, resentment, stress, financial burdens, wasted time, profound exhaustion and burnout.

I am also writing Plan B's for myself, because like everyone's, my Plan A's do not always work out. I work through every stage of this book, sometimes on a monthly basis. What I am sharing with you is how I actually live my life, constantly adapting my plans to my present situation - my health, relationships, work and the ever-changing world around me - and adapting where required. We are in this together.

REDIRECT & RESET
Stage 3

1. Find an empty jar.
2. Label it with a sticker or post-it note.
3. Every time you try something new or have a small win, write it down on a piece of paper and put it in the jar.

SOME REASONS WHY YOU SHOULD SAY YES

- Someone believes in you.
- You may block a miracle if you don't say yes to the opportunity.
- The opportunity may not arise again.
- Life can be fuller, richer, more creative and more vibrant when you say yes.
- It will encourage you to stretch yourself.
- By telling the world you have got this, you attract positivity.

FIVE THINGS YOU CAN QUIT RIGHT NOW

- Comparing yourself to others
- Needing other people's approval
- Trying to please everyone
- Putting yourself down
- Worrying about things you can't change