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Adler, in denial of the trauma argument, states the following: “No experience is in itself a cause of our success or failure. We do not suffer from the shock of our experiences—the so-called trauma— but instead we make out of them whatever suits our purposes. We are not determined by our experiences, but the meaning we give them is self-determining.”
— Mar 04, 2024 07:45AM
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“Yes. When reward is at the base of an interpersonal relationship, there’s a feeling that wells up in one that says, “I gave this much, so you should give me that much back.” This is a notion that is quite different from separation of tasks, of course. We must not seek reward, and we must not be tied to it.”
— Jun 02, 2024 05:03PM
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“We humans are not so fragile as to simply be at the mercy of etiological (cause and effect) traumas.
— May 17, 2024 08:52PM
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“When one can think, Whenever I am with this person, I can behave freely, one can really feel love”
— Apr 06, 2024 08:59AM
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“If someone were to abuse me to my face, I would think about the person’s hidden goal. Even if you are not directly abusive, when you feel genuinely angry due to another person’s words or behavior, please consider that the person is challenging you to a power struggle.”
— Mar 20, 2024 04:31PM
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“They use their misfortune to their advantage and try and control the other party with it. By declaring how unfortunate they are and how much they have suffered, they are trying to worry the people around them and to restrict their speech and behavior and control them.”
— Mar 10, 2024 10:58AM
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“Your happiness cannot be blamed on your past or your environment. And it isn’t that you lack competence. You just lack courage. One might say you are lacking in the courage to be happy.”
— Mar 06, 2024 08:53PM
