Erisa’s Reviews > Love Sense: The Revolutionary New Science of Romantic Relationships > Status Update

One very helpful, clarifying nugget I got thus far is that having an avoidant or anxious attachment style doesn't mean that it is some inherent feature of the person. Deep down, avoidant and anxious styles have the same attachment needs to feel loved, seen, and understood, but the strategy that they use to get their needs met when they feel their relationship is under threat (real or imagined) is different.