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MaryJo Fay

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Born

in The United States

Website

http://www.maryjofay.com

Genre

Self Help, Nonfiction, Thriller

Influences

Gary Chapman, author of The Five Love Languages
EL James - 50 Shades of ...more

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September 2013

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I was just like you not that long ago. I was a relationship mess. Yep – I survived some difficult relationships myself. From living through childhood sexual abuse, to surviving a difficult divorce after a 23 year marriage, to working for some nasty bosses, and even nearly taking my own life due to a depression that felt endless. I had to hit rock bottom before I could come up. What was the key that finally helped me realize how to get out of my predicament? That I was the common denominator in all my relationships! And I finally came to grips with what I was doing wrong and starting doing things right!

More importantly, I learned that the most difficult relationship I had,was the one I had with myself.

The changes I made in my life were incre I was just like you not that long ago. I was a relationship mess. Yep – I survived some difficult relationships myself. From living through childhood sexual abuse, to surviving a difficult divorce after a 23 year marriage, to working for some nasty bosses, and even nearly taking my own life due to a depression that felt endless. I had to hit rock bottom before I could come up. What was the key that finally helped me realize how to get out of my predicament? That I was the common denominator in all my relationships! And I finally came to grips with what I was doing wrong and starting doing things right!

More importantly, I learned that the most difficult relationship I had,was the one I had with myself.

The changes I made in my life were incredible and from there, everyone wanted to know how I did it – how I went from the edge of being a relationship mess to someone who is so “out of her Boxx” that she now helps others heal and grow as well.

Actually, I had a rather unusual epiphany that led to my changes. During the middle of my divorce, when I felt so lost and alone, I actually “ran away from home” to live and work in Cozumel, Mexico for the most amazing six months of my life! Not only did I hide and heal, but when vacationing American women befriended me (I was a hotel concierge) and asked me what the heck I was doing there and I told them, they would say, “You’re my hero!” And then they would start telling me their own stories. And guess what? I discovered a pretty strong behavior pattern that sent me researching this phenomenon even more.

Why were there so many unhappy, dissatisfied, miserably frustrated women, I asked myself. I thought I was the only one filled with emotional confusion, low self-esteem issues, and darkly depressed about my relationships. And yet, here I was, surrounded by others in the same boat. I knew I had to heal and help others heal as well. Thus began my journey …

To add to my own experience, I interviewed countless people across the country about their relationships. And I discovered what people will tell a total stranger about their personal lives is absolutely astounding! (Especially when they just get to talk openly and aren’t filling out some limited survey.) Even more interesting is that they told me things that they wouldn’t even tell their therapists! I got information that sometimes confirmed some of what I thought, some that surprised me, and some that downright shocked me. And the two most important pieces I discovered or confirmed were these:

Most of us tend to repeat our relationship patterns and behaviors over and over again, even when they continue to prove unsuccessful.

And just like me, they found that the most difficult relationship that most of us have, is the one we have with ourselves.

Since coming out of the darkness myself, I’ve written four successful relationship books and one novel and have been quoted as a relationship expert in radio, on TV, and in print around the world. I led a support group outside of Denver for people in difficult relationships. I founded and facilitate Denver’s BEST Dating, Mating, and Relating MeetUp Group. I currently write a regular column about “Living out of the Boxx” for two newspapers. (In my book, Get Out of Your Boxx, I define a “boxx” as a behavioral pattern that holds us back from being the best we can be.) I give speeches and workshops to help people discover more about themselves and what they’re missing in life.

With my nursing education and comfort with the human body, I teach people about their sexuality and how to be more comfortable and satisfied with their intimate relationships. My work has been translated into other languages, which is always pretty fun to see. And I’ve won awards for my books and am now writing screenplays to help spread my message to a wider audience.

I’m a different kind of expert … I’m not a therapist, nor do I have training as a life coach. I do not have a PhD in psychology. I ...more

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I ALMOST DIED LAST WEEK…

Seriously. And this was even a few weeks before most of the world had ever even heard the words CoronaVirus. It was still February when having a cold was just another expectation of the next health season cycle that comes along month after month. For me on that seemingly harmless Saturday, I’d spent a few...

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Average rating: 3.63 · 173 ratings · 25 reviews · 9 distinct works

	التفكير خارج الصندوق by MaryJo Fay (Goodreads Author), خالد العمري (ترجمة) 3.59 avg rating — 136 ratings — published 2003 — 4 editions	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars
	When Your "Perfect Partner" Goes Perfectly Wrong: Loving Or Leaving The Narcissist In Your Life 3.80 avg rating — 20 ratings — published 2004 — 3 editions	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars
	Blatant Deception 3.33 avg rating — 6 ratings — published 2013 — 2 editions	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars
	Please Dear, Not Tonight: The Truth About Women and Sex: What They Want, What They're Not Getting, and Why 3.80 avg rating — 5 ratings — published 2006 — 2 editions	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars
	Please Dear, Not Tonight it was amazing 5.00 avg rating — 2 ratings — published 2010	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars
	Please Dear, Not Tonight: The Truth About Women and Sex: What They Want, What They're Not Getting, and Why 4.50 avg rating — 2 ratings — published 2006	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars
	Get Out of Your Boxx! And Live The Life You Really Want!: But First Don't Forget To...drive The Carpool, Call Your Client, & Make Love To Your Spouse! it was amazing 5.00 avg rating — 1 rating — published 2003	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars
	When Your "Perfect Partner" Goes Perfectly Wrong: A Survivor's Guide to Loving or Leaving the Narcissist in Your Life did not like it 1.00 avg rating — 1 rating — published 2008	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars
	The Seven Secrets of Love: Unlocking the Mysteries Behind Truly Great Relationships 0.00 avg rating — 0 ratings — published 2008 — 4 editions	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars