Post Traumatic Growth Quotes

“There is a moment in our healing journey when our denial crumbles; we realize our experience and it's continued effects on us won't "just go away". That's our breakthrough moment. It's the sun coming out to warm the seeds of hope so they can grow our personal garden of empowerment.”
― Jeanne McElvaney, Healing Insights: Effects of Abuse for Adults Abused as Children

“The wounded mind must be reset like a fractured bone. It cannot heal itself without spiritual realignment.”
― Anthon St. Maarten

“Of Post-Traumatic Growth:

Rich Tedeschi and Lawrence Calhoun coined the term in 1995, when they noticed that some people did not recover from their traumatic experiences in a typically resilient fashion. Rather than return to their set point, everything about them radically changed: their worldviews, their goals in life, their friendships.

"It's not just bouncing back," Tedeschi explains. "Most people talk about that as resilience. We distinguish from resilience because this is transformative. "

"The one thing that overwhelmingly predicts it is the extent to which you say, "My core beliefs were shaken,'" Calhoun adds.

What kind of core beliefs? "The degree to which the world is just," Tedeschi says, "or that people are benevolent or that the future is something that you can control. Beliefs about, basically, how life works.”
― Barbara Bradley Hagerty, Life Reimagined: The Science, Art, and Opportunity of Midlife

“Trauma and pain have a way of forcing you to zoom in on the heart of your life.”
― Brittany Burgunder

“As with post-traumatic growth, it’s not the scare itself but the subsequent perspective shift that enhances gratitude.”
― Matt Fitzgerald, The Comeback Quotient: A Get-Real Guide to Building Mental Fitness in Sport and Life

“I was going to lie. I’ve had a lot of practice, you see. When I was growing up I lied all the time. To the police. To social workers. I had to keep big secrets… I remembered the last time I saw my father hit my mother. I was twenty. A grown-up. I’d gone home for a visit, and it started. Mum did something. I don’t remember what. She didn’t put enough tomato sauce on his plate. She laughed the wrong way… You know what I did? I ran to my old bedroom and hid under the bed. Because that’s what my sister and I always did. I didn’t even think. I just ran… and then all of a sudden I thought, ‘My God, what am I doing? I’m a grown woman hiding under the bed’ So I got out, and I called the police. I don’t hide under the bed anymore. I don’t keep secrets.”
― Liane Moriarty, Big Little Lies

“The paradigm—the paradox—of Love integrates the potential
for pain because it allows the other the freedom to choose. That
leaves the door open for catastrophe, betrayal, and broken hearts.
That’s why true Love is scary and takes an immense amount of
courage because it lets the other decide for themselves. The hero
and heroine’s Love knows the risk and opts for the possibility—but
not the guarantee—of a happy ending.”
― Marcus Farris, Return: Life After Moral Injury

“The payoff for experiencing legitimate suffering is that we
return home with a new relationship with ourselves and with a
remedy for others.”
― Marcus Farris, Return: Life After Moral Injury

“And the better we can accept that the odds are against us, the
better warriors we become, because failure no longer stands as a
judgment against our effort, character, or personal constitution.
Rather failure is a thing in this world that happens for us in order
to change us to who we are meant to become.”
― Marcus Farris, Return: Life After Moral Injury

“Our willingness to bear responsibility for the pain from the
first failure is where our power lies. We get to pick what to do with
the pain. And maybe that’s the same thing as finding our way back
to the garden, the place where nature, culture, the individual, and
families exist in harmony.”
― Marcus Farris, Return: Life After Moral Injury

“Forgiveness is the only mechanism that allows humans to exist
in harmony with one another, and how we can truly, finally, move
on from the past. Forgiveness is voluntarily rendering up our right
to get even, and in that exchange, we experience peace.”
― Marcus Farris, Return: Life After Moral Injury

“Inevitable tragedies of life make us more conscious of human
nature, that we live not for material pleasures but for the maturity
of the human soul. And this lesson is worth far more than any
material wealth can offer us.”
― Marcus Farris, Return: Life After Moral Injury