Woundedness Quotes

“My scars remind me that I did indeed survive my deepest wounds. That in itself is an accomplishment. And they bring to mind something else, too. They remind me that the damage life has inflicted on me has, in many places, left me stronger and more resilient. What hurt me in the past has actually made me better equipped to face the present.”
― Steve Goodier

“Love, Mercy, and Grace, sisters all, attend your wounds of silence and hope.”
― Aberjhani, The River of Winged Dreams

“As more people have found the courage to break through shame and speak about woundedness in their lives, we are now subjected to a mean-spirited cultural response, where all talk of woundedness is mocked. The belittling of anyone's attempt to name a context within which they were wounded, were made a victim, is a form of shaming. It is psychological terrorism. Shaming breaks our hearts. All individuals who are genuinely seeking well-being within a healing context realize that it is important to that process not to make being a victim a stance of pride or a location from which to simply blame others. We need to speak our shame and our pain courageously in order to recover. Addressing woundedness is not about blaming others; however, it does allow individuals who have been, and are, hurt to insist on accountability and responsibility both from themselves and from those who were the agents of their suffering as well as those who bore witness. Constructive confrontation aids our healing.”
― bell hooks, All About Love: New Visions

“A wound gives strange dignity to him who bears it. Well men shy from his new and terrible majesty. It is as if the wounded man's hand is upon the curtain which hangs before the revelations of all existence - the meaning of ants, potentates, wars, cities, sunshine, snow, a feather dropped from a bird's wing; and the power of it sheds radiance upon a bloody form, and makes the other men understand sometimes that they are little. His comrades look at him with large eyes thoughtfully. Moreover, they fear vaguely that the weight of a finger upon him might send him headlong, precipitate the tragedy, hurl him at once into the dim, gray unknown.

("An Episode Of War")”
― Stephen Crane, Short Shorts

“The only way to understand the reason behind someone's hurtful behaviour is -

Understanding that every action is driven by an underlying emotion. Emotions especially the negative one's are our reactions to the conflict between our beliefs and reality.

The influence of these negative emotions, causes us to act in ways that hurt others.

So if someone hurts you, it actually indicates
that they have an unsatisfied need or a wound
that needs attention.”
― Wordions

“It was ridiculous of her to feel so wounded.”
― Anne Tyler, Ladder of Years

“As a people, we have been tolled farther and farther away from the facts of what we have done by the romanticizers, whose bait is nothing more than the wishful insinuation that we have done no harm. Speaking a public language of propaganda, uninfluenced by the real content of our history which we know only in a deep and guarded privacy, we are still in the throes of the paradox of the “gentleman and soldier.”

However conscious it may have been, there is no doubt in my mind that all this moral and verbal obfuscation is intentional. Nor do I doubt that its purpose is to shelter us from the moral anguish implicit in our racism—an anguish that began, deep and mute, in the minds of Christian democratic freedom-loving owners of slaves.”
― Wendell Berry, The Hidden Wound

“Sin is more than a stain. Sin is a wound; it needs to be treated, healed. The place where my encounter with the mercy of Jesus takes place is my sin.”
― Pope Francis, The Name of God is Mercy

“I'm no expert, but in my limited experience, women aren't born women. They start out as girls. And every girl, from the moment they can dream, imagines the rescue. The knight. The castle. Life in a fairy tale. If you don't believe me, watch boys and girls on a playground. No one teaches us to do this. The kid in us actually believes in things that are too good to be true. Before life convinces us we can't and they're not.

Then life kicks in. Boys become men. Girls become women. For any number of reasons we are wounded and, sadly, wounded people wound people. So many of us grow into doubting, hopeless, callous adults protecting hardened hearts. Medicating the pain. Life isn't what we imagined. Nor are we. And we didn't start out trying to get there. Far from it. But it's who we've become. One day we turn around, and what we once dreamed or hoped is a distant echo. We've forgotten what it sounded like. Once pure and unadulterated, the voice of hope is now muted by all the stuff we've crammed on top of it. And we're okay with that. For some illogical reason, we stand atop the mine shaft of ourselves, shoving stuff into the pipe that is us, telling our very soul, 'Shut up. Not another word.' Why? Because the cry of our heart hurts when unanswered. And the longer it remains unanswered, the deeper the hurt. In self-protection we inhale resignation and exhale indifference.

[Murphy Shepherd]”
― Charles Martin, The Letter Keeper

“From other stories that have been handed down to me I know that my people, like many others in the slave states, went to church with their slaves, were baptized with them, and presumably expected to associate with them in heaven. Again, I have been years realizing what this means, and what it has cost.

First, consider the moral predicament of the master who sat in church with his slaves, thus attesting his belief in the immortality of the souls of people whose bodies he owned and used. He thus placed his body, if not his mind, at the very crux of the deepest contradiction of his life. How could he presume to own the body of a man whose soul he considered as worthy of salvation as his own? To keep this question from articulating itself in his thoughts and demanding an answer, he had to perfect an empty space in his mind, a silence, between heavenly concerns and earthly concerns, between body and spirit. If there had ever opened a conscious connection between the two claims, if the two sides of his mind had ever touched, it would have been like building a fire in a house full of gunpowder: somewhere down deep in his mind he always knew of the danger, and his nerves were always alert to it.”
― Wendell Berry, The Hidden Wound

“Healing is your right, your responsibility and the risk you can't afford not to take.”
― Thaiia Senquetta, Honey peppered tongue

“They know too well the violent hypnosis of those who hope to possess them-- men who can smell the blood on the places where a woman is breaking.”
― Alana Massey, All the Lives I Want: Essays About My Best Friends Who Happen to Be Famous Strangers

“Great depth of beingness and creativity often come with great woundedness.”
― Kathryn V. White

“God forgives not with a decree but with a caress. Jesus too goes beyond the law and forgives by caressing the wounds of our sins.”
― Pope Francis, The Name of God is Mercy

“For every spirit who is learning: you heal yourself.”
― Thaiia Senquetta, Honey peppered tongue

“You must have thought more times than you realized "it will hurt".

You should know it may. Okay. It may hurt immensely to open you up in your safe, dark space, sporadic light and chaotic air hitting you unlike anything you have known. Sometimes it will feel impossible to swallow. Because finding your way back to you involves telling the truth about oneself while pushing through a field of trees that are all whispering different tones of you.”
― Thaiia Senquetta, Honey peppered tongue

“It can be proven that wounded people wound others. Walk circumspectly among wounded people, their injuries are deeply submerged in their brain's amygdala, and without the time-tested practice of emotional intelligence, you might find yourself scarred by association. Give your associations time to reveal their emotional intelligence or lack thereof; employers measure their associates seasonally, quarterly, and or annually; but ask yourself the question: (Q) WHY haven't you?”
― Tracey Bond

“You are more than your virginity. You are more than your sexual history. You are more than what happens to you. You are immensely valuable. No wound can ever make you less than whole. Wounds become scars, and scars make a person beautiful.”
― Ruth Everhart, Ruined

“Don't ever
allow
the disharmony of others
to
become your own

a
mindful practice
of discernment
(and the dislike for wearing bullshit)
builds
the eye, heart and spiritual muscles.”
― Thaiia Senquetta

“I stumble on this path
with an open wound
but I am not
my woundedness.”
― Sheniz Janmohamed, Reminders on the Path

“As painful and devastating as wounds inflicted by God's people can be, they have made me more determined to live out what I believe authentically. I am deeply motivated to know God. I want to know Him as He truly is, not through the distorted reflection of those who called themselves by His name.”
― Anne Graham Lotz, Wounded by God's People: Discovering How God's Love Heals Our Hearts

“If ever someone had the right to protest, This isn't right, this isn't fair, I don't deserve this, it was Jesus.

If ever someone had the right to walk out and walk away, it was Jesus.

If ever someone had an excuse to complain, feel sorry for Himself, find fault with God, it was Jesus.

If ever someone had the right to retaliate and - literally - condemn those who mistreated Him, it was Jesus.

Instead, Jesus entrusted Himself to God. He knew His beloved Father well enough to know that these very religious people, although they considered themselves God's representatives on earth, were nothing of the sort. They were wicked, sinful pretenders who would one day stand beffore God and give an account for what they had done.”
― Anne Graham Lotz, Wounded by God's People: Discovering How God's Love Heals Our Hearts