Sandra Zaid

“A single person is missing for you, and the whole world is empty.”
― Philippe Ariès

“Self-regulation can be taught to many kids who cycle between frantic activity and immobility. In addition to reading, writing, and arithmetic, all kids need to learn self-awareness, self-regulation, and communication as part of their core curriculum. Just as we teach history and geography, we need to teach children how their brains and bodies work. For adults and children alike, being in control of ourselves requires becoming familiar with our inner world and accurately identifying what scares, upsets, or delights us.”
― Bessel A. van der Kolk, The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma

“,,The danger that arises to someone when a love
object is “lost”—through death, or betrayal, or disappointment—is
not primarily the loss of that particular person or institution or ideal;
the danger is to the person’s sense of himself, which depends on his
sense of an ongoing internal attachment to his loved object.”
― Thierry Bokanowski, On Freud's "Mourning and Melancholia"

“Being traumatized means continuing to organize your life as if the trauma were still going on—unchanged and immutable—as every new encounter or event is contaminated by the past.”
― Bessel A. van der Kolk, The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma