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Inferiority should not come from comparing yourself to others but rather comparing yourself to your ideal self.
Competition makes you see everyone as enemies. (comparison is the thief of joy).
There is a difference between personal anger and indignation. Personal anger often cools soon and is used to make people submit to you whereas indignation usually lasts.
Don’t be sucked into a power struggle caused by abuse
— Jun 13, 2026 07:00AM
Competition makes you see everyone as enemies. (comparison is the thief of joy).
There is a difference between personal anger and indignation. Personal anger often cools soon and is used to make people submit to you whereas indignation usually lasts.
Don’t be sucked into a power struggle caused by abuse
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Jack Hand
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Recognition from others is not needed.
Education by reward and punishment leads to living a life around satisfying people’s expectations.
— 8 hours, 36 min ago
Education by reward and punishment leads to living a life around satisfying people’s expectations.
Jack Hand
is on page 108 of 288
Explains how people will choose to dislike someone to avoid an interpersonal relationship with them, then pick and choose flaws to justify their disliking.
It’s not what one was born with, but what use one makes of that equipment.
Understanding freedom is essential when discussing courage.
— 8 hours, 53 min ago
It’s not what one was born with, but what use one makes of that equipment.
Understanding freedom is essential when discussing courage.
Jack Hand
is on page 99 of 288
Talks about how often people avoid work not because of the work but because of the relationships they form with colleagues. If you fuck up in work you fear the consequences on your identity and the response of others.
Talks about friendships that rely a on a place like school. Real love is not constricting your partner and “it is only in social contexts a person becomes an individual.
— Jun 16, 2026 11:57AM
Talks about friendships that rely a on a place like school. Real love is not constricting your partner and “it is only in social contexts a person becomes an individual.
Jack Hand
is on page 87 of 288
q try not to view your position in a discussion as being right as it implies that the other person is wrong and that creates competition.
— Jun 13, 2026 07:05AM
Jack Hand
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Inferiority complexes are used to one’s advantage. Superiority complexes are the derivatives of inferiority. One can use their misfortune to seem special.
— Jun 10, 2026 11:35AM
Jack Hand
is on page 58 of 288
“So afraid of interpersonal relationships that you came to dislike yourself. You’ve avoided interpersonal relationships by disliking yourself.”
Claims there is a reason for all problems, insecurities we make up, usually to avoid
something and have the excuse ready.
Books is more or less a therapy session.
“Cannot alter objective facts. But subjective interpretations can be altered as much as one likes.
— Jun 06, 2026 03:08AM
Claims there is a reason for all problems, insecurities we make up, usually to avoid
something and have the excuse ready.
Books is more or less a therapy session.
“Cannot alter objective facts. But subjective interpretations can be altered as much as one likes.
Jack Hand
is on page 42 of 288
I’m hooked. Accepting and guiding change because it is already inevitable is a good point. Fabricating anger to achieve a goal you are or aren’t aware of is very interesting and makes me want to notice when anger is unnecessary.
Breaks down wanting to be another person well.
— Jun 04, 2026 09:14AM
Breaks down wanting to be another person well.
Jack Hand
is on page 6 of 288
Already seems like it’s going to be great. Dialogue format works very well showing both perspectives instead of dumping a load of philosophy on you.
— Jun 03, 2026 10:58AM
