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You will protect the relationship from damage and you won't do things behind your partners back that might interfere with your sense of trust their sense of trust or teamwork, and it becomes a more natural state of consideration

be nurturing, considerate, little things for each other, remembering things what they like, speaking to each other respectfully and lovingly, helping each other out around the house, sharing chores responsibilities, making time for physical touch and connection sharing emotions having good manners, asking about each other's days and taking the time to listen being curious being each other's biggest fan

securely attached couples talk to each other about their experiences in the world. You might talk about your day at work or events from your childhood or about your dinner. With a friend. It could be anything the happiest of couples and have experiences to come back and share with their partners.

Here are some things to do to help create the attachment friendly environment and these are some things that securely attached couples are doing just being, having fun, sharing experiences and feelings, connecting with other people, nurturing the relationship, protecting the relationship, be secure, be imperfect

securely attached partners spent far less time working on the relationship and far more time enjoying their relationship, which is working on their relationship if you consider how much resilience is created when two people take the time to enjoy each other

long-term we want to fill the bucket up with clean water closeness and increased trust higher levels of emotional and physical intimacy and closer friendship

Ideally she'd like to see all couples achieve this felt sense of security closer to 90% of the time

When you have a secure attachment, you'll feel a strong sense of connection to your partner, but a lot of the time security is less about what you do feel and more about what you don't feel

“Bears repeating that conversations like this do not always solve the problem right then in there it's like choosing an apple over a donut because you want to eat healthier. rationally it makes sense but emotionally everything and he wants the donut”

I tried a lot of these things and I’m met with silence or misunderstanding or anger from them