Natalie’s Reviews > Love Expanded: How asexuals and aromantics are redefining love, life and family > Status Update
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“Being ace, that attraction drive just isn’t there. And that means there is not much motivation to Do Gender as a part of the whole apparatus. That makes the whole thing kind of vestigial. Being ace makes gender stop being load-bearing for me”
Yep, this is absolutely involved in my gender feels. And is part of why it’s hard for me to know what I want to affirm my gender. What, socially, is gender for
— Aug 24, 2026 10:56AM
Yep, this is absolutely involved in my gender feels. And is part of why it’s hard for me to know what I want to affirm my gender. What, socially, is gender for
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“Compulsory sexuality, for me, brought with it a kind of compulsory gender, even after I realized I stood outside the gender binary. Refusing compulsory sexuality meant refusing that compulsory gender too”
— Aug 24, 2026 10:58AM
Natalie
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“As an aroace person, I never underwent many of the milestones considered to be an integral part of growing up…Now, by failing to come out in a meaningful way (understandable to others, actionable), I had even fumbled the one milestone for living as a queer adult that I knew of. I felt like an incomplete adult, and an inauthentic queer”
Deeply resonate with this, but working on it.
— Jul 27, 2026 11:07PM
Deeply resonate with this, but working on it.