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Help for High-Conflict Couples: Using Emotionally Focused Therapy and the Science of Attachment to Build Lasting Connection

by Jennine Estes Powell

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Gestalt Therapy Verbatim by Frederick Salomon Perls

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It is often said that poets and artists have to create their audiences. Perhaps founders of therapeutic schools have to create both patients and disciples.

“You know what one of the saddest damn things is? One of the parts of all this that I’m grieving the most? When I lost my marriage, I lost all that shared history. I lost the person who knew me in a way no one else does, and when I lost him, I also lost being known like that.”
― Maggie Smith, You Could Make This Place Beautiful

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“I thought, If I had the energy I’d leave him, and then I folded up that little thought, wrapped it in gauze, and swallowed it.”
― Sarah Manguso, Liars

tags: abuse

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“When we lack self-understanding, we are more likely to choose a partner or relationship as a response to our wounds, insecurities, or modeled behavior.”
― Sara Kuburic, It's On Me: Embrace Hard Truths, Discover Your Self and Change Your Life

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“Even if you achieve things that seem outwardly fabulous, an unhealed emotional injury will make you experience them as empty and unappealing. By contrast, recovering your emotional health will suffuse even small successes with joy, long before you achieve anything obviously spectacular.”
― Martha Beck

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“The sense of loss these women express is a yearning for the feminine, a longing for a sense of home within their own bodies and community. Most women today have spent their early and mid-adulthood developing and fine-tuning qualities that have always been considered masculine, including skills in logical, direct linear thinking, analyzing, and setting short-range goals. Women who brought emotions into the workplace were quickly told they did not belong there. Although many companies are now training upper management in a more feminine or “Beta-style” mode of leadership, which values feelings, intuition, and relationship, many women complain of undervaluing the feminine part of themselves.”
― Maureen Murdock, The Heroine's Journey: Woman's Quest for Wholeness

tags: feminism

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