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“Sometimes, we use ‘busyness’ as a distraction from making a big decision about our lives. We cover up our feelings with our work, with our diary, with other people’s needs. In my coaching sessions, I find most people are putting off something out of fear. Why would they bother writing a book, or training for a marathon, or launching a business if there’s a chance they might fail? They fill their time with less important, endless tasks, rather than focusing on the goals that matter. Having a goal we care about is scary. So how do we get around this block?”
― Emma Gannon, The Success Myth: Our obsession with achievement is a trap. This is how to break free

“Even if you achieve things that seem outwardly fabulous, an unhealed emotional injury will make you experience them as empty and unappealing. By contrast, recovering your emotional health will suffuse even small successes with joy, long before you achieve anything obviously spectacular.”
― Martha Beck

“When we lack self-understanding, we are more likely to choose a partner or relationship as a response to our wounds, insecurities, or modeled behavior.”
― Sara Kuburic, It's On Me: Embrace Hard Truths, Discover Your Self and Change Your Life

“Success’ now is in the minutiae of the way I spend my days. It’s committing to doing things that help myself and others. It’s showing up. It’s taking care of myself. It’s paying the bills without losing my mind. Or having a long walk. Or calling a friend. Or having a new adventure. Or meeting my deadline. Or being brave. Or saying no. Or having a lie down. I don’t need someone from Strictly Come Dancing to do my make-up to make me feel valid. I just need to be me. When we unpick the myths, we open ourselves up to a new-found sense of freedom and get to design our lives from scratch.”
― Emma Gannon, The Success Myth: Letting go of having it all