Boundaries Quotes Quotes

“About the expression "Hurt people, hurt people".. Hurt people are not going to stop HURTING other people until they receive the memo that it is WRONG, (or if there are actual consequences for their behaviour.) Feeling sorry for them and understanding where they 'came from' is not helping to stop the cycle of abuse.”
― Darlene Ouimet

“make an agreement to exercise mutual control over each other. The unspoken pact between them is, “It’s my job to make you happy, and your job to make me happy. And the best way to get you to work on my life is to act miserable. The more miserable I am, the more you will have to try to make me feel better.” Powerless people use various tactics, such as getting upset, withdrawing, nagging, ridiculing, pouting, crying, or getting angry, to pressure, manipulate, and punish one another into keeping this pact. However, this ongoing power play does nothing to make them happy and mitigate their anxiety in the long term. In fact, their anxiety only escalates by continually affirming that they are not actually powerful. Any sense of love and safety they feel by gaining or surrendering control is tenuous and fleeting. A relational bond built on mutual control simply cannot produce anything remotely like safety, love, or trust. It can only produce more fear, pain, distrust, punishment, and misery. And when taken to an extreme, it produces things like domestic violence.”
― Danny Silk, Keep Your Love On: Connection Communication And Boundaries

“Perception is everything. If you see everything through the lens of the naysayers or through a victim perspective, then it’s hard to get what you really want in life.”
― Keisha Blair, Holistic Wealth: 32 Life Lessons to Help You Find Purpose, Prosperity, and Happiness

“The word no is like an asset in a metaphorical bank account where our life’s energy is the holding. Use it to save, and use it to earn a greater sense of yourself, what’s important to you, and where you want to spend your time and energy.”
― Keisha Blair, Holistic Wealth Personal Workbook: 32 Life Lessons to Help You Find Purpose, Prosperity, and Happiness

“The more you value yourself, the healthier your boundaries are.”
― Lorraine Nilon, Spirituality, Evolution and Awakened Consciousness: Getting Real About Soul Maturity and Spiritual Growth

“If I could mark clearly, convincingly and consistently what was good for me and also what was bad — if I could say yes and also no, as if it were the law — it would become my law.

It finally had to.

I understood that it wouldn’t be easy, it would be very hard; I’d need to resist the habit I had developed long ago – with conviction. I’d have to be impolite, an inconvenience, and sometimes awkward. But if I could commit, all that discomfort would add up to zap predatory threats like a Taser gun. I’d stun them. They’d bow to me. I’d let my no echo against the mountains.

And better to feel bad for a moment saying no – and stop it – than to get harmed.”
― Aspen Matis, Girl in the Woods: A Memoir

“O she bad.

She thrives in harshest situations.

She has mastered the art of positive thinking.

She sets boundaries you wouldn't dare to cross.

She knows if she can build she can destroy.

O She's the baddest.

Sis, take a look in the mirror.

She is you.”
― Marion Bekoe

“You are in control of your life. Set new boundaries by removing all of the toxic people from your inner circle.”
― Germany Kent

“If you don't voice your concerns and speak your truth, people will assume that you'll accept disrespectful behavior.”
― Vanessa Ooms, Do It For You: How to Stop People-Pleasing and Find Peace

“Only you can limit you and only you can break that limit.”
― Hiral Nagda

“Healthy people don’t stay in unhealthy family dynamics. Healthy people don’t allow their parents to control their life, they live for themselves. Healthy people don’t follow the career path their parents want them to take, they choose the right path for themselves. Healthy people don’t marry someone to meet the expectations of their family, they commit to someone who they love and makes them happy. Healthy people don’t let their abusive family members define them, they seek help and build a better future for themselves”
― Farah Ayaad

“I realize, anger is here to remind me,
to protect what is important to me.
I have a choice.
Instead of screaming what I don’t want,
I can calmly say what I do want.
Even when I can’t have what I want,
I can brainstorm ways to get what I need.
Instead of focusing on the problem,
I can focus on the solution.”
― Lauren Martin, Anger is a Storm

“You will never please every single person. It doesn't matter how good your intentions are.”
― Vanessa Ooms, Do It For You: How to Stop People-Pleasing and Find Peace

“Happiness is abundant if you know how to find it. It is contagious but can easily be destroyed by people who lack it. Be mindful! Draw your boundaries!”
― June Stoyer

“Creating an atmosphere of mutual respect and consideration for boundaries, can lead you to the path of personal happiness.”
― Nancy B. Urbach

“Break the limitations. Destroy the boundaries. Defeat the challenges. Display God's power through your existence.”
― Hiral Nagda

“The people closest to you have the most to lose by losing you so they are the most resistant to you changing.”
― Jen Sincero, Badass Habits: Cultivate the Awareness, Boundaries, and Daily Upgrades You Need to Make Them Stick

“Do I stay or leave the relationship?
It's not about what decision you are making; it's about the process, the steps you take of how you arrive at the decision to stay or leave and how you do it.”
― Andrea Anderson Polk, The Cuckoo Syndrome: The Secret to Breaking Free from Unhealthy Relationships, Toxic Thinking, and Self-Sabotaging Behavior

“Set boundaries for certain people at all times.”
― Dax Bamania

“Setting a boundary” means protecting your joy and well-being by telling someone to stop a harmful behavior. Practice setting a boundary try saying: “I can’t let you x. I need y.”
― Lauren Martin, Anger is a Storm

“Take note of how people treat you after you say no to their demands.”
― Mitta Xinindlu

“I'm all about enengy. Just keep it positive around me.”
― Marion Bekoe

“It is essential to differentiate when a problem is truly ours, and when we are a clear open vessel in a pond of dirty water.”
― Pamela Storch

“Sometimes we can save ourselves years of pain by what we are willing to say "no" to upfront. If it doesn't feel right from the beginning, putting up with it for 10 years, isn't going to make the process of saying "no" any easier.”
― Pamela Storch

“It's okay to set boundaries for your own good.”
― Werley Nortreus

“I will not co-sign systems that mirror the very harm I speak against. Not even when it’s packaged as opportunity.”
― Kierra C.T. Banks

“You don’t get to sit in my living room unless you wipe your feet and chip in for the rum.”
― Elena Levon

“Reminder: you are in control of adjusting, adapting, and changing your boundaries anytime you choose. You do not ever need to rationalize or justify a behavior choice that is best for you.”

Excerpt From: Sarah Voldeng. “The Art of an Enlightened Woman.” Apple Books.”
― Sarah Voldeng, The Art of an Enlightened Woman: A Manifesto

“You didn’t lose your worth — you just stopped giving discounts to people who never deserved access to your heart.”
― Lina Bloom

“Your relationships are shaped by two forces: who you choose to be and what you choose to accept.”
― Jason Nelson