“Clean eating necessarily implies that any other form of eating – and consequently the eater of it – is dirty or impure and thus bad, and it's not simply a way of shaming and persecuting others, but leads to that self-shaming and self-persecution that is forcibly detrimental to true healthy eating.”
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“Carla's description was typical of survivors of chronic childhood abuse. Almost always, they deny or minimize the abusive memories. They have to: it's too painful to believe that their parents would do such a thing. So they fragment the memories into hundreds of shards, leaving only acceptable traces in their conscious minds. Rationalizations like "my childhood was rough," "he only did it to me once or twice," and "it wasn't so bad" are common, masking the fact that the abuse was devastating and chronic. But while the knowledge, body sensations, and feelings are shattered, they are not forgotten. They intrude in unexpected ways: through panic attacks and insomnia, through dreams and artwork, through seemingly inexplicable compulsions, and through the shadowy dread of the abusive parent. They live just outside of consciousness like noisy neighbors who bang on the pipes and occasionally show up at the door.”
― The Couple Who Became Each Other: Stories of Healing and Transformation from a Leading Hypnotherapist
― The Couple Who Became Each Other: Stories of Healing and Transformation from a Leading Hypnotherapist
“Eating disorder recovery becomes possible when you keep making the next right decision over and over. With time, these decisions become automatic.”
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“So many nights, I stared out at the inky black ocean, believing that if I could only learn how to eat again and keep my hands out of my throat, that would be enough. I prayed hard and desperately to God and the sun and the moon and the ocean and the universe and every shelter dog I’d ever met, as if they were all genies, that I wouldn’t ask for anything more.
But perhaps God isn’t a collection of genies, and perhaps it’s okay to hope for more than relief. To hope big. To hope for Sunny’s limitless capacity to love.”
― Pound for Pound: A Story of One Woman's Recovery and the Shelter Dogs Who Loved Her Back to Life
But perhaps God isn’t a collection of genies, and perhaps it’s okay to hope for more than relief. To hope big. To hope for Sunny’s limitless capacity to love.”
― Pound for Pound: A Story of One Woman's Recovery and the Shelter Dogs Who Loved Her Back to Life
“I am too big and too small and too much and not enough and too frightened to change and too sad to stay the same.”
― The Time in Between: A Memoir of Hunger and Hope
― The Time in Between: A Memoir of Hunger and Hope
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